NYC is empty

Do you feel deep down that if you don’t worry, you’ll forget about the threat and accidentally enjoy yourself then boom — it will blindside you? Do you equate worry with taking action?

Worry is one of our many trauma responses and is an unhelpful habit of the mind that easily escalates into debilitating anxiety. It is natural and helpful to be aware of what is happening. I’m not suggesting ignoring reality. That’s denial. But sticking our head in the sand and blithely dancing along to “Don’t Worry Be Happy” is not our only option.

The Kiloby Inquiries have two great tools for exploring our beliefs and releasing what keeps us stuck — the Reverse Inquiry and the Utility Inquiry. We commonly use Reverse Inquiry on core deficiency beliefs, like I’m not good enough or I’m not lovable, and we can also use it directly on worry.

Think of something you’ve been worrying about that has some power to distract you by repeatedly coming up in your mind. Are you worried you will lose your job or home during Covid-19? We are all concerned that we will get the virus or someone we know will and get sick and possibly die. We wonder about the long term effects of Covid-19 on mental health, drug overdoses, socialization of children and the economy. We are all legitimately worried. Our world has changed.